How clinging to the past can not just make you feel incredibly stuck but also prevent you from moving forward.
In this blog post, I share my experience with clinging to the past and not even realizing it.
For a long time, I was constantly asking myself why nothing happened in my life, why nothing was moving in the direction that I wanted and had planned. Why does everything feel so difficult? Why is it so hard to motivate me to do simple tasks?
You might already feel incredibly stuck, yet you have no idea why. You are trying and trying, but nothing is changing. You think you have to do more, try harder, rethink all those past situations, but you don't seem to get it. And, the harder you try, the worse it gets.
At this point, you are just so tired, exhausted, and maybe even burned out.
It was in this moment of complete exhaustion that I started realizing that I was trying too hard with all this trying. Sometimes we have to calm down, take a deep breath of air, and allow ourselves to let go of all the frustrations. We can't run 24/7 at maximum speed. Electronics will only run as long as there is enough battery. What makes me think that I can run nonstop without charging myself? I have realized that all the answers come to me when I allow myself to recharge. To pause for a moment and let my mind rest from constantly overthinking.
When I started to take better care of myself, which meant listening to my body—resting when I was tired, pausing when I needed a break, and meditating when I didn't seem to find the answers, that's when a huge light bulb moment of realization turned on. I couldn't believe that I had been secretly clinging to the past.
I didn't realize that blaming old situations and people for my current situation kept me stuck from moving on. Also, I thought I had let go of resentment and old grudges, but I hadn't.
So once again, I went on a deep dive into figuring out why I was still clinging to old unfair situations or blaming toxic people. The answer I came up with was fear. Fearing that if I'd let go of the past, I would repeat having the same experiences with toxic people in my future or fear of failure, which kept me from trying. I didn't just realize that I was clinging to the past out of fear but also out of lost self-esteem and self-worth.
I didn't realize that I didn't fully believe in myself nor allowed myself to loosen up. I was so fearfully clinging to the past and more scared of my past experiences repeating themselves in the future. I was so concerned about the past or the future that I couldn't live in the present. The present moment is where everything begins, where you decide to face your fears and choose to look deeper into resolving what's holding you back.
I knew I had a lot of work to do. I was practicing meditation to find myself again. Letting go of old ways of thinking and believing, reprogramming my mind to a more optimistic outlook, and building back my confidence and self-esteem. I knew it was all within me; I just needed to find it.
And I know that you can too. We carry everything we need within us to move on and feel equipped to move forward. It's only a matter of connecting back to yourself and finding it. 🧡 I'd be more than happy to help you find it.